I think a timeline would be good here...
Friday, Sept 30~ 34th Birthday
Sunday, October 2~ Yoga Birthday Party at the studio
I stop at my Aunt Laurie's before the party to pick her up & grab all the goods for my sweaty shindig.
Michael, my uncle, has the rest of the crew loaded up in the mini-van destined for church. Gramma included! As she was waiting, I went outside to see her. I gave her a hug & as I did she said, "Get in here, let's go!" It was a quick moment of shame--who wants to tell their Gramma they aren't going to church with her...?...not me...but I did. She didn't judge. If she had, I would have known. She pretty much always said how she felt.
...which reminds me of a piece of advice Laurie had gifted me this summer..."You need a little more "Doris" in you!"
...for those that are sensitive (myself included), my Gramma's truth was not guaranteed to leave you feeling like you've received a pat on the back...she didn't tell you what you wanted to hear~she told you HER truth. Everytime I would respond with how I felt, my truth--she would always pause...taking a moment to respectfully consider it from my perspective. ...which led to some of the best & most cherished conversations I've ever had with another human being. No presence of debate or cries of trying to be understood. Just simple understanding...from both of us.
So, yes...I agree~I need a little more "Doris" in me. : )
I think we all do.
